{"id":1794,"date":"2023-11-17T16:15:04","date_gmt":"2023-11-17T16:15:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/?page_id=1794"},"modified":"2023-11-17T16:43:08","modified_gmt":"2023-11-17T16:43:08","slug":"en-berbat-muzakere-taktikleri-ve-dusuncelerim-4","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/en-berbat-muzakere-taktikleri-ve-dusuncelerim-4\/","title":{"rendered":"En berbat m\u00fczakere &#8220;taktikleri&#8221; ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerim: (4)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"800\" height=\"275\" src=\"http:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/1697185578157.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1812\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/1697185578157.jpeg 800w, https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/1697185578157-300x103.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/1697185578157-768x264.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201c\u0130yi Polis-K\u00f6t\u00fc Polis\u2019i uygulay\u0131n\u201d (*)<br>\u201cM\u00fczakereye kat\u0131lan arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zdan birine (ya\u015f\u0131 en b\u00fcy\u00fck olana) k\u00f6t\u00fc polis rol\u00fcn\u00fc oynat\u0131n. (Kat\u0131 \u015fartlar\u0131 olan, anla\u015fmaya yana\u015fmayan, yer yer tehditler savuran bir m\u00fczakereci). Yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015foktan sonra bir bahaneyle (\u00f6rne\u011fin sakinle\u015fmek veya bir telefon konu\u015fmas\u0131 yapmak i\u00e7in) d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131ks\u0131n ve tak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131zdan bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 (ya\u015f\u0131 en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck olan) iyi polis (nazik ve uzla\u015fmac\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnen m\u00fczakereci) rol\u00fcn\u00fc oynayarak k\u00f6t\u00fc polis d\u00f6nmeden h\u0131zl\u0131 bir anla\u015fma yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fs\u0131n.&#8221;<br>Tekrar tekrar kullan\u0131ld\u0131k\u00e7a kendini belli eden ve di\u011fer taraf\u0131n akl\u0131n\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseme esas\u0131na dayal\u0131 olarak tasarlanm\u0131\u015f bir taktik daha. Bu takti\u011fi hata yapmadan kullanmak o kadar \u00e7ok \u00e7aba gerektirir ki, rol alan ki\u015filer kendi oyunlar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7inde kaybolup m\u00fczakere ama\u00e7lar\u0131na odaklanmaktan uzakla\u015fabilirler.<br>Bu takti\u011fi di\u011fer taraf bizim \u00fczerimizde uygulamaya kalk\u0131\u015f\u0131rsa \u00f6ncelikle yapmam\u0131z gereken, durumun fark\u0131nda oldu\u011fumuzu a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ve biraz da \u015faka ile kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k ifade edip muhataplar\u0131m\u0131zdan yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 yeniden d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelerini kibarca istemek. \u00d6rne\u011fin; \u201cSanki iyi polis-k\u00f6t\u00fc polis y\u00f6ntemi uygulan\u0131yormu\u015f gibi bir noktaya geldi g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmemiz \u015fu anda. En az\u0131ndan bana\/bize \u00f6yle geliyor. Yan\u0131l\u0131yor olabiliriz ama \u015fimdilik bizdeki alg\u0131 b\u00f6yle. Daha a\u00e7\u0131k bir \u015fekilde m\u00fczakere etmeyi ve birlikte daha i\u015fbirli\u011fi i\u00e7inde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 deneyebilir miyiz?\u201d<br>Bu oyuna son vermenin ikinci ve daha incelikli yolu, oda\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yaln\u0131zca iyi polise kayd\u0131rmak. G\u00fc\u00e7 oyununa girmek yerine, ileti\u015fimimizi m\u00fczakerecilerin daha uzla\u015fmac\u0131 olanlar\u0131na y\u00f6nlendirebiliriz. Bir ba\u015fka g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f ise oda\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yaln\u0131zca k\u00f6t\u00fc polise kayd\u0131rmay\u0131 savunuyor.<br>Her iki g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn ortak yan\u0131 \u015fu: \u0130ki polisi de mutlu etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n.<br>Sizi bilmem ama ben y\u00fczle\u015fmeden yanay\u0131m. <br><br>(*): Uluslararas\u0131 bir kurulu\u015fun sat\u0131n alma \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131na verdi\u011fi talihsiz bir &#8220;m\u00fczakere e\u011fitimi&#8221;nde da\u011f\u0131tt\u0131\u011f\u0131 notlardaki alt\u0131 ba\u015fl\u0131ktan biri daha. Sava\u015f\u0131 \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve m\u00fczakerede kullan\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f buldu\u011fum i\u00e7in &#8220;taktik&#8221; t\u0131rnak i\u00e7inde.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201c\u0130yi Polis-K\u00f6t\u00fc Polis\u2019i uygulay\u0131n\u201d (*)\u201cM\u00fczakereye kat\u0131lan arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zdan birine (ya\u015f\u0131 en b\u00fcy\u00fck olana) k\u00f6t\u00fc polis rol\u00fcn\u00fc oynat\u0131n. (Kat\u0131 \u015fartlar\u0131 olan, anla\u015fmaya yana\u015fmayan, yer yer tehditler savuran bir m\u00fczakereci). Yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015foktan sonra bir bahaneyle&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1794"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1794"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1794\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1813,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1794\/revisions\/1813"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1794"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}