{"id":1805,"date":"2023-11-17T16:30:27","date_gmt":"2023-11-17T16:30:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/?page_id=1805"},"modified":"2023-11-17T16:33:19","modified_gmt":"2023-11-17T16:33:19","slug":"idare-edemem-anne","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/idare-edemem-anne\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201c\u0130dare edemem anne\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"861\" height=\"292\" src=\"http:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/ko..jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1809\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/ko..jpg 861w, https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/ko.-300x102.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/ko.-768x260.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/ko.-850x288.jpg 850w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 861px) 100vw, 861px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>M\u00fczakere e\u011fitimlerimde bir zamanlar bu \u00e7ok bilinen videoyu kullan\u0131yordum; Elinde uzun sapl\u0131 ve kalp \u015feklinde k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bir \u015feker tutan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck Yaman&#8217;a annesi:<br>\u201cHay\u0131r Yaman, a\u00e7 yatacaks\u0131n. O \u015fekerle art\u0131k idare edersin bu gece\u201d deyince Yaman\u2019\u0131n g\u00f6zleri ya\u015far\u0131r ve a\u011flamaya ba\u015flarken sesini y\u00fckselterek:<br>\u201c\u0130dare edemem anne! idare edemem!&#8221; cevab\u0131n\u0131 verir.<br>Sadece on iki saniye s\u00fcren ama herkesin y\u00fcre\u011fini \u0131s\u0131tan bu videodan sonra kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131lara sordu\u011fum: \u201cSizce Yaman\u2019a ak\u015fam yeme\u011fi verilecek mi?\u201d sorusuna \u201cBence Yaman o gece a\u00e7 yatar\u201d diyene hi\u00e7 rastlamad\u0131m.<br>Peki ama neden?<br>Bu \u2018m\u00fczakere\u2019de annenin de\u011fil de \u00e7ocu\u011fun dedi\u011finin olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l bu kadar kesin g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz? Yaman neden daha avantajl\u0131? Anne \u00e7ocuktan daha ak\u0131ll\u0131 oldu\u011fu halde nas\u0131l oluyor da m\u00fczakere \u00e7ocu\u011fun istedi\u011fi gibi sonu\u00e7lan\u0131yor?<br>\u00c7ocuk, annesinin sevgisinden emin, \u00f6nceki tecr\u00fcbelerini hat\u0131rl\u0131yor. Evet a\u011flamaya ba\u015fl\u0131yor ama bir bl\u00f6f ile kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya oldu\u011funu da biliyor. Annesi ise \u00e7ocu\u011fun risk almaktan ve zarar g\u00f6rmekten \u00e7ekinmeyece\u011fini biliyor.<br>B\u00fcy\u00fcklerin d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda ya\u015fayan ve hi\u00e7 bir yetkileri olmayan \u00e7ocuklar nas\u0131l m\u00fczakere edilece\u011fini iyi bilirler. Bence en b\u00fcy\u00fck avantajlar\u0131 olaylara basit ve yal\u0131n bakabilmeleri, her \u015feyi enine boyuna d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ve \u00e7ok fazla \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcp bi\u00e7meye gerek g\u00f6rmemeleri. (Bir m\u00fczakereciyi en \u00e7ok zorlayan m\u00fczakereci tipi de zaten budur). Oysa biz yeti\u015fkinler, ataca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her ad\u0131mdan \u00f6nce iyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek zorunda oldu\u011fumuzu hissederiz. Bir risk almaya karar verdiysek, o riskin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fme olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 zihnimizin bir k\u00f6\u015fesinde hep durur. \u00c7ocuklar hedeflerini \u00e7ok y\u00fckseklerde belirlerler. Bunlar \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ger\u00e7ek d\u0131\u015f\u0131 hedefler olsa da, onlar samimi olarak o hedefe ula\u015fma \u00e7abas\u0131 g\u00f6sterirler. Ailede as\u0131l karar verme yetkisinin kimde oldu\u011funu anlarlar. Bir \u015feyi anne reddederse babaya, o da sonu\u00e7 vermezse dedelere veya b\u00fcy\u00fckannelere giderler. Enerjileri kolay kolay t\u00fckenmez, yani pes etmezler.<br>M\u00fczakerede ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in \u00e7ocuklar gibi olun, hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi umursamadan isteklerinizin do\u011frultusunda k\u0131ra d\u00f6ke ilerleyin demiyorum tabi. Ancak m\u00fczakereyi \u00e7ok ama \u00e7ok fazla umursamak, s\u0131f\u0131r risk ile ilerlemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, &#8220;onlarla olmazsa olmaz&#8221; alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yaratmak da do\u011fru de\u011fil. Denge noktas\u0131n\u0131 bulmam\u0131z gerekiyor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>M\u00fczakere e\u011fitimlerimde bir zamanlar bu \u00e7ok bilinen videoyu kullan\u0131yordum; Elinde uzun sapl\u0131 ve kalp \u015feklinde k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bir \u015feker tutan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck Yaman&#8217;a annesi:\u201cHay\u0131r Yaman, a\u00e7 yatacaks\u0131n. O \u015fekerle art\u0131k idare edersin bu gece\u201d&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1805"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1805"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1805\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1810,"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1805\/revisions\/1810"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kazandiranmuzakere.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1805"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}